Parental Alienation ‘is not as valued as it should’ in Portugal
Source: Portugal | Sun Journal | Society | 2662 Views | 04/24/2013 09:46:00
Experts in the welfare of children believe that parental alienation “is not as valued as it should,” and advocate a “more serious” for the practice, others ask sanctioning instruments that shared custody is more applied.
“Parental alienation is not valued as it should. If it were the processes of failure of parental responsibilities would be much quicker, “says the president of the Portuguese Association for Missing Children, who was speaking to Lusa the purpose of the International Day of Awareness on Parental Alienation, marked on Thursday.
Patricia Cipriano argues that there should be “much more severe sanctioning instruments for parents who do not fulfill the duty to let the child visit the other parent.”
“If there was a different efficacy in decisions and if people begin to see that the breach of the parental responsibilities you could have serious legal consequences, would have other behavior” supports the president of the association, which has received “very serious” situations.
Although the “legal penalties” be necessary, Patricia Cipriano says that is not enough: “There must be a work with these families.”
“The situation should be evaluated by technicians who worked with the courts, particularly in terms of family mediation, so that such behavior was ceased and the parent clearly understood that this behavior seriously affects the child,” he explains.
The president of the Portuguese Association for Parental Equality, Ricardo Simões, advocates the creation of standardized instruments of early intervention.
“It is still being built in Portugal, because there is no broad agreement on how to intervene in these matters consensus,” says Ricardo Simões.
To him, a way to prevent parental alienation, in legislative terms, is the creation of “legal presumption of alternating residence.”
“The starting point is that the child has to live with both parents and is only kept this presumption if there is justifiable reasons for this”, he explains.
In countries where the shared custody rule is, these situations are “much smaller” without the social dimension that exists in Portugal, says Ricardo Simões.
“It makes no sense” logic of magistrates and judges select only one parent. “Rather, we must promote the child spend the most time possible with the parents and not just with a” advocates.
The secretary-general of the Institute of Child Support, Manuel Coutinho, calls for “good sense” of parents to avoid these situations: “It is up to the father and mother realize that above all your questions, there are children who are a precious asset that must be safeguarded. ”
Psychologist warns that the conflict between the parents’ cause irreversible damage “in children” are very fragile, sad “they feel responsible for the situation and” develop loyalty pledges “.
“They tell the father what the parent wants to hear, tell the mother what the mother wants to hear, but never tell their parents what they feel, because they are so focused on guerrilla who forget their most precious asset, the son,” laments .
To the psychologist, “is critical” parents “solve your problem instead of conjugal and not ruin forever the issues of parenting, because children are forever.”
Lusa / SOL